[Happy] Women’s Day

March 23, 2010 – 11:37 pm

Wrote and shared with friends on Women’s Day - posting it here a little late :$

So, Women’s Day was celebrated again today with much zeal and fervor. Since yesterday I have been hearing speeches, discussions on “How” to improve the overall situation of women rights in Pakistan. I was sitting in my air-conditioned office, when I started getting Women Day wishes - i surely felt great and HAPPY! Life is good Alhamdulilah, I got to study from one of the prestigious private institutions of Pakistan, have been working at a well-known company, get three meals a day and snacks to munch on in between, wear nice and expensive clothes, travel by car, party out with friends when I feel like and so life’s beautiful. I’m privileged, educated and hence empowered so yay HAPPY WOMEN’S DAY but yes there’s a huge BUT! I decided to work for this campaign TakeBackTheTech a few months ago. As part of the campaign, I keep researching on women issues on a regular basis and specially before speaking at any event or writing on the topic for any publication. Without exaggerating I would say that what I get to read about women issues does not let me sleep properly at night. I traveled to Lahore to deliver a presentation to the legal community there, the presentation was witty but least did people know how much stress I had to undergo in trying to prepare that presentation - stress that followed reading about how women suffer, how they r brutally raped, tortured and murdered. Call me sensitive or altruistic but yes I DO feel the pain of those women even when I don’t even know them.

Days before my travel young maid Shazia was brutally murdered in Lahore and the alleged murderer belongs to the legal community of Lahore. After the incident I traveled with another agenda in mind that perhaps I’d be able to change mindsets of a few after talking to them on women issues and they in turn will do something about girls/women like Shazia.. The presentation also went great and I was hopeful ( may be I still ‘am) that something would happen. Little Shazia will get justice! I remember mentioning in my presentation at Lahore that we ALL empowered CJP because we wanted justice for ALL. I had this faith that now after freedom of judiciary, anyone irrespective of his class/creed can get justice but I was WRONG! Weeks later, it was announced that Shazia died because of anemia and malnutrition ( yes anemia can fracture your ribs, your skull, your arm and your nails can get plucked out because of malnutrition) It was a clear enough sign that the alleged murderer will be freed and poor Shazia won’t get justice. However, i still had this little hope that CJP will intervene, I remember him saying in several speeches that once restored, he’ll ensure justice for EVERY Pakistani. Shazia was also a Pakistani and I knew CJP wud keep his word but ahh I was wrong. With due respect, CJP Sb has been restored and now he probably has forgotten his promises or perhaps a death of a poor maid is not even worth his attention. I really don’t know what’s going on except that Shazia died a painful death and nothing was done about it.

Similarly, several Shazias suffer regularly and while in all speeches we say “We SHOULD”, we seldom say “WE WILL ” (I’m no different either) Everyday I see a new NGO forming up in the name of Women Rights, yet I know it’s not even safe for me to walk half a mile alone - eve teasing is fun for many and I haven’t seen any NGO doing anything about it (Please enlighten me if any NGO has - I’m ignorant!) may be because they SHOULD but they WON’T…any way I digress! So, I was saying there are many Shazia’s around us and in presence of them, I really don’t know if I can be HAPPY!

Oh I know I know….women have MashAllah progressed a lot too in different fields and there’s certainly something to be Happy about it but yet what cancels the effect is that very few out of those *successful* women are doing something for the betterment of other women around them. I’m not Happy because I cudn’t do anything about Shazia and many other Shazias, I’m not Happy because I didn’t do even a single thing today to bring a smile on the face of one such Shazia but one day, yes one day I WILL InshAllah and that day I’ll proudly stand and say Happy Women’s Day.

Till that day, I keep it in the brackets (duh my software engineering background, which tells me that anything in square brackets is optional) So, if u think you have done something practically for even a single Shazia today, be Happy and celebrate else think again and maybe do something before you become another Shazia (God Forbid)!

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Stay safe! -|-


Criteria for respectability!

March 4, 2010 – 11:57 pm

It was lovely morning today with a partly cloudy weather. I was on my way to office with a peaceful mind, excited to have yet another busy and lively day.The route that my van takes is usually not a busy one, however, at one of the signals, the traffic policemen made us wait for unusually longer today, and at last we figured out that it was because of a VIP movement - which is not really unusual. While I was irritated at first, I immediately decided not to let it get on my nerves because I wanted to stay in good mood for the rest of the day. Van kept moving at it’s usual speed and I kept observing the outside world with trail of different thoughts in mind when suddenly some car started honking on us and by the time I turned around, all I saw was a speedy Parado with jet black glasses overtaking us from left side (yes the wrong side) , slamming into the side view mirror and moving ahead at a high speed. While I was trying to understand what happened, I saw another Parodo crossing us and then pushing sides on us while a Habshi(Arabic) looking guy from inside uses foul language while looking angrily at our van driver.

My van driver uncle had to finally al most stop the van in the middle of the road to let the jerks go and just then I noticed that both the cars had international number plates. It was then I felt really really sad on being harassed in my OWN country by/because of those who were not even Pakistani nationals. It made me realize how simply a Parodo with an International or for that matter green number plate can make you the most respectable and powerful person. It can give the license to humiliate anyone who does not have a Parado or a similarly expensive car.

It saddened me extremely on how I got treated like a 3rd grade citizen in my own country just because I’m a COMMON Pakistani like million others! While the incident that I narrated above may seem simply another example of road rage to many, it was not just disturbing for me but also left me wondering if I would ever be able enjoy status of a 1st grade citizen in any part of the world!

PS: The driver of the jet black car may not be foreigner and the guy speaking foul language may not be real Habshi either and may be a member of the Makarani community who resemble Habshis a lot but still I would stick to my opinion that the kind of attitude they showed was because they were driving a Parado with an International Number plate and knew that laws are not meant for them - Slap on the face of a common Pakistani NATIONAL like myself!

PPS: My last wish - I would want to drive an ultra expensive car on the roads of Karachi and feel how it is like being a RESPECTABLE Pakistani National!

PPS: I still love my country and ‘am living to see THE change. Pakistan Zindadbad!

Disclaimer - This post is not meant to show any racism.