Ousting the intruders out of my life!
Around 10 months back when i started my full-time job..i had firmly decided i would never let my work life disturb my family life…things went smoothly as I wanted them to go for a few weeks but then I became a machine….working day’n'night…..i got a lot of respect Alhamdulilah…importance..performance bonuses…recognition….offers to lead the team(which I turned down when I resigned…yup…I have RESIGNED) …but heck….i still feel I’m a LOSER…..i lost so many precious moments that I cud hav spent with my family…my mother…my brother…noone means to me more than they….I’m what I’m just because of my family….their support…their duaz……but it makes me feel pathetic to have realized now how much I have ignored my family and how have they kindly excused me everytime……i feel ashamed of myself….i feel I’m losing my allegiance to them….just for a few bucks….it’s just a bad deal….a worst decision that I never wanted to make but somehow my professional elements intruded in my personal space….but now I have decided to oust these intruders out of my life……work on restoring the work-family life balance back and don’t just be happy myself but above anything else…make my family happy……nothing worths the pleasant moments spent with one’s family…..I love u mummy, farhan and misss u baba 
PS: If ur work is also taking over you personal life…u also oust the intruders out. Even though u can never recapture the lost time but u can still live thoroughly the times that have yet to come; by valuing ur family more than nething and neoone else.
That’s a nice thought…I sincerely hope that you’ll be able to put it into practice.
Comment by Sidhusaaheb — April 19, 2008 @ 1:25 am
i opted to work at home.. and i feel if anybody is able to earn a similar amount at home.. and do good work.. whats bad then =) …. In freelance, you kinda own your profession and have more control over it ..
Comment by Kamran — April 19, 2008 @ 2:44 am
Fariha! you are right, your post made me think! My work is taking over my personal life too but i am trying to minimize that on day by day basis. Sorry to say but i think that these days we take parents, brothers and sisters for granted. We don’t evev consider the amount of effort put by them to make us what we are today.
Indeed! for few bucks, it’s a bad deal
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Comment by Ali Raza Shaikh — April 19, 2008 @ 12:23 pm
With me, my work life hasn’t taken over my family time. It’s my computer!
Comment by SAWJ — April 19, 2008 @ 1:16 pm
@Sidhusaaheb
Thanks parra jee…i hope the same
@Kamran
Freelance is a great option…most probably i’d also go for it in some time
@Ali
You are absolutely right Ali….we take them and their love for us for granted….let’s work together to change it
@SAWJ
Computer…..yes…that’s another intruder….and deserves a separate post. ‘m working on somehow limiting the time that I spend on my computer….havn’t yet been successful but trying so u should also start trying and if anything works out for u…don’t forget to share it with me
Comment by Administrator — April 19, 2008 @ 1:57 pm
A really good message you’ve for your readers here. I’m admit I’m guilty of the same. Juggling studies, committee work and commercial projects leaves so little time and yet, you are right, what a loser I am.
Comment by Hina — April 19, 2008 @ 9:47 pm
@Hina
Start working from now to keep a balance and InshAllah then it’d become a habit…u’ll understand when it’s time to keep work aside and spend time with ur family
Comment by Administrator — April 20, 2008 @ 12:20 am
Let go of my computer? That ain’t happening to me, no way!
Comment by SAWJ — April 20, 2008 @ 3:43 pm
@SAWJ
Ha ha…even I can’t let go of it completely but we can at least try not to over do
Comment by Administrator — April 21, 2008 @ 12:27 am
For me, there’s no such thing as ‘over do’ with computers. It’s always ‘under do’.
Comment by SAWJ — April 21, 2008 @ 12:27 pm
Hey, thanks for stopping by my blog
I think the reason work overtakes family in importance is because family is very understanding and accomodating but at work excuses don’t do. You have to deliver because that’s what they’re paying u for. So we give our excuses to the family that loves us unconditionally.
Comment by Extiinct — April 21, 2008 @ 4:32 pm
Just quoting SAWJ:
“With me, my work life hasn’t taken over my family time. It’s my computer!”, “Let go of my computer? That ain’t happening to me, no way!”, and “For me, there’s no such thing as ‘over do’ with computers. It’s always ‘under do’.”
Comment by waqas — April 21, 2008 @ 6:41 pm
@SAWJ and Waqas
Maumla khasa ghambeer hai aap do hazraat ka
. Just always keep in mind “Family comes first” and hopefully u’ll be able to restore the work family life balance
@Extiinct
Welcome to my blog
I do agree with u that we tend to ignore our families because they r generally very understanding and accommodating. I also agree that we work hard to deliver the project/product in time but often organizations do not really pay us for working extra. It has become a trend to pay resources for 9 hrs but expect them to work 19 hrs….day’n'night and they plan accordingly…..the concept of “overtime” is diminishing now and with that we end up becoming machines because we know we will emerge as winners in the corporate race if we work for long hours.
Comment by Administrator — April 21, 2008 @ 7:34 pm